How To Stay Positive In A Toxic Work Environment

Dec 02, 2019

How can you be positive in a negative work environment? In this interview, Nathan Cook answers that question. Nathan is an international business coach and one of the most positive people I know so you don't want to miss this.

Drew: I am interviewing Nathan Cook today and we are going to be talking about a positive attitude. Nathan is a coach, international speaker and trainer, and a new father. That is fantastic, lots of great stuff, lots of positive things happening in your life. But you really represent a positive attitude and you bring the positive attitude everywhere you go. I don't know if that's something that you had to learn, something you were born with, something you've really developed or focused in on, but we're going to find out here in a minute. So I have a couple of questions for you. And the first one is this: People want to know how you can be positive at work if it is a negative environment?

Nathan: Oh man, that is such a difficult question to answer because the only thing that you can control, really, is your attitude. You can't control anything else in your circumstances. So when it comes to having negative people around, you can't control the attitudes of the people around you. As much as you really want to make people change, we all know that people who don't want to change, you can't get them to change. The only thing you can do is continue to come to work with a positive attitude. But in order to make sure that you don't move to the negative train, you have to actually start prepping your mind for the positive. You know, my entire life I've been positive. I really have, ever since I was a kid I've been positive. I've always had a bright outlook on everything. But in college there was this strange thing that happened. The first year of college was absolutely amazing. I found myself around all these people that were just exciting to be around. And then one day in my sophomore year I was looking at everyone and I was like, "Why does everyone have such an awful attitude?" These people would just drive me crazy.

And I realized that I had started to surround myself with negative people. You see I believe in the law of averages and that you are the average of the five people that you spend the most time with. So that means that if you are spending the majority of your time with people at work who are negative, you will become negative. The only way that you can combat that is you have to be proactive. You have to be intentional to put positive pieces in your life. Whether that's affirmations, or an inspirational video. The first couple of years when I was working on being a coach and a speaker and a trainer, I listened to Les Brown every single day. I would be driving to a meeting and listening to the most amazing, inspirational YouTube video on Les Brown.

And I would literally just listen to that and listen to it, and listen to it. And what's funny is the more you pour into your life, the more that will start to overflow into other people's lives. When you're negative, it means that you have an abundance of negative around you. So yes, you may be at work, you may be surrounded by circumstances that you cannot control. You can choose to be positive and you can choose to put positivity in your life. That can also be through music. When I was in high school a good friend of mine would listen to Linkin Park CDs all the time. He got a brand new CD and I remember one day going like, "What is so great about this music?"

So like a good Christian boy, I took it from him. I'm like, "I'm going to get rid of it for him." Essentially I had stolen it. And one day I was in my car, I grabbed the CD and stuck it in the CD player. I started listening to this music and I was like, "Oh, this is amazing. Like so good, hard rock." But what's funny is that at one point, probably about a month later, I remember my mother saying, " You have a poor attitude. I don't know what happened, but you need to cut it out."

You see, we don't think about the media that we consume. We don't consider the Facebook. We don't consider the music that we listen to, the lyrics. Lyrics matter, lyrics truly do matter. You can't lie to yourself and say, "I just listen to it for the beat." Lyrics matter. Whatever you're putting in your life, whether that is inspiration or negativity, it will come out and that will affect your attitude. So the only way for you to move forward in a negative environment is to cushion yourself with so much positivity in what you hear and what you speak. Everything that you do has to exude positivity. And let me tell you, if you struggle with positivity, it's not going to be an easy road to get to being positive. It takes work. It's a daily process. Zig Ziglar said it's like bathing. Motivation is like bathing, you do it every single day. Positivity, same thing. If you want to be positive, you have to bathe in positivity every single day. And what's great is as you continue to do that, people will start to smell positivity on you. You'll look up one day and you'll be like, where did all all those negative people go? They will leave because they don't like being around you.

Drew: So bathe yourself in positivity and if you are looking for a place where you can bathe yourself in positivity, we have all of Nathan's information, his social media accounts where he goes Facebook live on a regular basis, and he is pumping out content where people can get encouraged, they can get strengthened, they can get built up, change their mindset, and be more positive.

Nathan, thank you so much for sharing with us and answering that question about how to stay positive in a negative environment. What a fantastic interview with another highly influential person. I have all of my guests' contact information in the description below and I encourage you to connect with them on social media, follow them and access all the wonderful content that they have available to you. If you enjoy this content, give us a like, subscribe so you can have access to this content as soon as it comes out. I have an influence assessment where you can rank your influence and then you can put together a plan on how to increase your influence over time. I've made that available to you. If you go to the description, it's the first link available to you there. Remember, increase your influence, realize your dream.


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